Help people by not helping them

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 ⭐You can help someone in two ways-

1.By helping them.

2.By not helping them.


Strength is developed when one takes the responsibility on their shoulder.

Sometimes you need to help people by not helping them and allowing them to take their responsibility to develop their strength.





Know what's yours to take and what's not.

With the desire to not look selfish, you take the responsibility of things which are not yours.

And then you are overburdened and feel overwhelmed, stressed and resentful.


Today we were practicing setting boundaries in the morning implementation call of Explorer's Club.

And we were dissecting the underlying beliefs, desires and wants.


Many of us  have the belief that if I say no, my relationship with the other person will get spoiled.


Here is the truth-

It is already spoiled if you are feeling resentful towards them by saying yes when you want to say no.It is already spoiled when you can't speak your heart.When you can't be who you are- a person with limitation.


I don't believe in the phrase -"People take advantage of me."

 When someone says that I know they are avoiding their responsibility.

It's easy to blame others because we don't have to take the responsibility of our part,how we are contributing to this situation.


People don't take advantage of you.You let them.

Because you are afraid to be a bad person in their eyes.


You don't become a bad person when you say no.

It just makes you human.A human with limitation of time and energy with only that much you can take on your shoulders.


You are responsible to share your perspective, your No's ,Cannot's clearly, appropriately and respectfully.

However,how others perceive it is not in your control.


The question is are you okay to feel misunderstood?

Are you okay if someone feels you are the villan in their story even though you shared it clearly, appropriately and respectfully?





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