The anklet I didn't keep but the wisdom I did

A recent incident that taught me a deep lesson…

I had been wanting to buy anklets for a while. So I asked my brother if he could gift them to me as a my Rakhi & Birthday present . 

Later, I shared this with my grandmother, and she lovingly said she would buy the anklets for me on my brother’s behalf.

I felt excited.

We went to a jeweller, someone from whom our relatives had purchased earlier.

It was a bit late in the evening.

I wanted a 92.5% silver anklet.

I tried on 2–3 designs, but before I could explore further, my brother called asking me to return soon. 

I was in a rush, and in that moment of pressure, I quickly picked a pair.

As I was almost at the billing counter, I asked the jeweller about the silver quality.He said it's 70%.

I was surprised. This wasn’t what I wanted.

Yet, I convinced myself to go ahead with it. 

Thoughts like:

They’ve kept the shop open for me late...

They’ve already shown me several pieces...

It would be awkward to walk away now…

...pushed me into buying something I wasn’t fully happy with.

I didn’t check the bill properly either  and later, I noticed it had errors, and I had been overcharged.

That was the tipping point.

I felt a wave of emotions ,I was upset that the design wasn’t my first choice, upset that it was not the quality I wanted, and now upset that I had been looted.

I cursed the jeweller. I hated the anklet. I even had the thought that maybe someone was jealous of me getting it, and it got jinxed.

I was so angry - I wanted to go back, return it, and confront him.

Later I thought what will give me desired outcome?

I prayed for the situation to resolve peacefully. But I also realized- I was carrying anger, blame, and negativity  and that energy would surely affect the conversation.

So I decided to do Ho’oponopono —

towards the jeweller, the anklet, the person I suspected of being jealous of, my grandmother, the person who came with me… and even myself.

Why towards myself?

Because I realized I had bought the anklet from a space of fear and greed.

Greed- "If my grandmother is offering now, I should take it. What if she changes her mind later?" (Lol 😂 - now it sounds funny but that time it wasn't)

Fear -"What will the jeweller think if I reject this at the last moment?"

I decided to take full responsibility for my choice.

I would go back and ask him, calmly. Not to return it in anger, but from clarity - that this isn’t what I truly wanted.

And no matter what, my grandmother wouldn’t bear the loss — I would, because I was the one who said yes.

Before that, I visited another jeweller to understand how the pricing works. He confirmed what the original jeweller said - but I also understood that it’s a malpractice, widely done but still wrong.

So I returned to the original jeweller. I asked him questions. He gave vague explanations. I held my ground.

Eventually, I returned the anklet and got the money back - even though I had to bear the loss of GST & Making charges.

But I felt relieved.

Relieved that I didn’t settle for something less than I desired.

Yes, I had to bear a small loss. But what I gained was much more -

Here’s what I deeply realised during the process.

𝟭. 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗼𝗽𝗲𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗴 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗸.

I’m currently living off my savings. Somewhere, that made me feel dependent , waiting for others to buy me what I wanted.

2. 𝗧𝗿𝘂𝘀𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗰𝗮𝗽𝗮𝗯𝗶𝗹𝗶𝘁𝘆  

I know I am capable. And a capable person should not depend on others for what she wants because it's actually  disrespectful to her own capabilities.

So I made a clear choice .I will not buy out of fear or greed..I will take full responsibility for this, bear the loss myself not my grandmother.And buy what I truly want when I’m ready.

3. 𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝘀𝗲𝘁𝘁𝗹𝗲 𝗳𝗼𝗿 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴 (𝗼𝗿 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝘀𝗼𝗺𝗲𝗼𝗻𝗲) 𝗼𝘂𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗳𝗲𝗮𝗿 𝗼𝗿 𝗽𝗿𝗲𝘀𝘀𝘂𝗿𝗲.

The moment you do, regret is often the price.

𝟰.𝗜 𝗮𝘁𝘁𝗿𝗮𝗰𝘁𝗲𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗯𝗲𝗰𝗮𝘂𝘀𝗲 𝗜 𝘄𝗮𝘀 𝗮 𝘃𝗶𝗯𝗿𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗺𝗮𝘁𝗰𝗵 𝘁𝗼 𝗶𝘁.

It’s hard to admit, but honest. When you operate from fear, you call in confusion. When you act from lack, you won't get the best.You settle for less.

𝟱. 𝗬𝗲𝘁, 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗨𝗻𝗶𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘀𝗲 𝗮𝗹𝘄𝗮𝘆𝘀 𝗵𝗮𝘀 𝗺𝘆 𝗯𝗮𝗰𝗸.

Even when I make mistakes,it gently redirects me back to take responsibility and stand in power.This experience was one of those redirects.

𝟲. 𝗥𝗲𝘀𝗲𝗮𝗿𝗰𝗵. 𝗔𝘀𝗸 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀. 𝗗𝗼𝗻’𝘁 𝗿𝘂𝘀𝗵. 𝗕𝘂𝘆 𝗳𝗿𝗼𝗺 𝗽𝗹𝗮𝗰𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗹𝗶𝗴𝗻𝗲𝗱 𝘄𝗶𝘁𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝘃𝗮𝗹𝘂𝗲𝘀.

Whether it’s silver, services, or relationships .Don’t settle just because you’re in a hurry or someone’s watching.

Ask: Is this really what I want?

𝟳. 𝗬𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗻𝘃𝗶𝗿𝗼𝗻𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗶𝘀 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗿𝘆𝘁𝗵𝗶𝗻𝗴.

What you watch, who you follow, what you consume - all of it affects your vibration.

I could do Ho’oponopono that day because I had watched a video recently.

And I could bring that energy to my situation.

It's the power of staying in the right energy which anchors you when you go out of alignment.

𝟴. 𝗜𝗻 𝗮𝗻𝘆 𝘀𝗶𝘁𝘂𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻, 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗲𝗺𝗼𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝗮𝗹 𝗲𝗻𝗲𝗿𝗴𝘆 𝘀𝗵𝗮𝗽𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗼𝘂𝘁𝗰𝗼𝗺𝗲.

If I had gone to the jeweller full of anger and blame, the conversation would have collapsed. But because I processed my emotions, I walked in with clarity and walked out with peace.

𝟵. 𝗦𝘁𝗶𝗰𝗸 𝘁𝗼 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗮𝗻𝘁 - 𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗻 𝗶𝗳 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘀 𝘀𝘂𝗴𝗴𝗲𝘀𝘁 𝗼𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿𝘄𝗶𝘀𝗲.

The jeweler tried to convince me that by returning it I was making a mistake.

But for me I was correcting a mistake.

Everyone will have opinions. But only you will live with the result. Don’t abandon your clarity just to avoid discomfort in the moment.

Have you ever had any experience where you were tested against your values,emotions....you almost gave in but your consciousness had got you back on track?

Love,

Pratiksha