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  "I Can’t Believe I Did This…" "I can't make this mistake. I knew this. So how could I still do it?" Have you ever felt this? That crushing guilt when you make a mistake you knew you shouldn’t? You were fully aware that this action could cause damage, yet you did it unconsciously. And now, it’s not just the mistake—it’s the shame that’s eating you up. Maybe the damage is high. Maybe it feels irreversible. But what now? I know it’s not easy. Not when the consequences feel heavy. But really—WHAT NOW? How long will you keep punishing yourself? How long will you keep blaming yourself? And how is it helping you? BTW,Who do you think you are to not make mistakes? Do you think you’re god?All perfect?  No. You are a human. Why can't you do mistake? Don't you think this is actually an unrealistic expectation from yourself ,that I should not do mistake. Because you feel your mistakes make you imperfect. What's that obsession with being perfect,when clearly it...

  𝐖𝐡𝐲 𝐝𝐨 𝐈 𝐧𝐨𝐭 𝐟𝐞𝐞𝐥 𝐦𝐨𝐭𝐢𝐯𝐚𝐭𝐞𝐝 𝐭𝐨 𝐰𝐨𝐫𝐤 𝐭𝐨𝐰𝐚𝐫𝐝𝐬 𝐦𝐲 𝐠𝐨𝐚𝐥𝐬? Have you ever wondered that? Last night, while journaling, I was reflecting on this question. Today, during a session with my mentor, Puja Puneet, I gained even more insights into this topic—specifically about energy. What I Learned- 1.People feel demotivated and lack energy because they don’t have a strong enough desire. Their 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝗶𝗿𝗲 𝗶𝘀𝗻’𝘁 𝗱𝗲𝗲𝗽 𝗲𝗻𝗼𝘂𝗴𝗵 to truly move them. 2. They 𝗰𝗮𝗿𝗿𝘆 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝘄𝗲𝗶𝗴𝗵𝘁 𝗼𝗳 𝗽𝗮𝘀𝘁 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁𝘀, which leads to demotivation. The Key is to: Have a deep desire. Make fast decisions and take fast actions. Understand that every action leads to one of two outcomes: delight or disappointment. 𝗪𝗵𝗮𝘁 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗱𝗼 𝗮𝘁 𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗱𝗶𝘀𝗮𝗽𝗽𝗼𝗶𝗻𝘁𝗺𝗲𝗻𝘁 𝗹𝗲𝘃𝗲𝗹 𝗱𝗲𝘁𝗲𝗿𝗺𝗶𝗻𝗲𝘀 𝘄𝗵𝗲𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗿 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘄𝗶𝗹𝗹 𝗿𝗲𝗮𝗰𝗵 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿 𝗱𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗻𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗼𝗿 𝗻𝗼𝘁. 𝗧𝗵𝗲𝗿𝗲 𝗮𝗿𝗲 𝘁𝘄𝗼 𝘁𝘆𝗽𝗲𝘀 𝗼𝗳 𝗽...

"In life,either you discuss or decide.You can't do both.If you discuss you can't decide.If you have decided then no need to discuss." I heard this from Dr.Velumani in Changemaker. And how true it is! I could so relate to it. There were times in my life when I didn't trust myself,and what's best for me,so I went to others and what it did is increase my confusion and paralyse me. But later as I listen to my soul trusting what's best for me,even If I didn't know how to do it,I decided and started working towards it and that's how figured things out. Isn't that's what adulting is? Making your own choices by knowing what's best for you. Not everyone will understand you,your dreams,your wants and if you discuss it with them then the only thing you will find yourself in is a dilemma. Should I go after it or not. Who knows what's best for you? Love, Pratiksha P.S.- I totally believe in getting perspectives of experts in the matter that we d...

At just 8 years old, I unknowingly adopted a survival strategy—numbing myself. Whenever I felt uncomfortable emotions I couldn’t express, I turned to television as my escape. And so, the avoidance continued. Even as an adult I avoided uncomfortable emotions by watching television, mobile, and living in an alternate fantasy world to avoid the discomfort and to feel temporary good. But here’s the truth- 𝗧𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗻𝘂𝗺𝗯 𝘆𝗼𝘂𝗿𝘀𝗲𝗹𝗳,𝘁𝗵𝗲 𝗺𝗼𝗿𝗲 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝗯𝘂𝗿𝘆 𝘄𝗵𝗼 𝘆𝗼𝘂 𝘁𝗿𝘂𝗹𝘆 𝗮𝗿𝗲. When we numb ourselves—whether through distractions like social media, food, work, or any other escape—we push down our real emotions and avoid facing what’s truly going on inside us.  Over time, this creates distance between who we are and who we pretend to be for the sake of comfort or peace. Emotions, even the difficult ones, are signals guiding us toward self-awareness.  When we ignore them, we lose touch with our authentic selves.  The more we suppress, the ...

Have you ever felt guilty about being privileged? Have you ever felt you aren’t worthy of your success because you’re privileged? Why Privileged People Deserve Their Success Without Guilt- 1. Society Glorifies Struggle: Society often values effort as the ultimate measure of success, creating the belief that hard work is the only way to "earn" accomplishments. However, success is a combination of effort, strengths, and circumstances—not just struggle. 2. Privilege is Not a Choice: Natural talents, easier learning, or better opportunities are gifts a person is born with, not something they chose. These gifts don’t diminish the worthiness of their achievements. 3. Success is Multifaceted: Privilege doesn’t invalidate success; it’s just one factor. Strengths like intelligence, strategic thinking, and resourcefulness also contribute, and these don’t always require visible effort. 4. Effort Isn’t the Only Measure: Just because success came with less struggle doesn’t mean it’s undes...

 I was reflecting on something last night. Do I really need to have the last word in every argument? If so why? Where is it coming from? And how is it impacting the relationships? And I remember what my mentor said- Win the war not the battle. You cannot win an argument, because even if you win you lose it in the long term. So win the war not the battle. Relationships are work. Frictions,differences in opinions are part of it. But how I am managing them, shows the future of my relationships. Do I really win the petty battles or win the important war? What's your war? What battles are you fighting?Is that necessary? Love, Pratiksha

We all want to be noticed and appreciated, but have you ever considered that sometimes we seek attention through immature ways without realizing it?  This can harm how others see us.It makes them doubt our reliability. You might get attention, but the impression you're leaving is that you're irresponsible. This kind of behavior often comes from unconscious patterns we’ve developed from childhood but they no longer serve us as adults. As children, acting this way may have helped us avoid responsibilities or get away with mistakes.People may have forgiven you easily because you were a child, but now you are an adult,and expected to act like one. As adults, we are expected to take responsibility, not avoid it. We’re also expected to own our mistakes. Avoiding it by being victim,makes you look childish and leads to loss of trust and respect. If you don’t want to take certain responsibilities, isn’t it better to address them directly rather than acting immaturely?  Have the courage...